And Then There Were Two

Thank you to the hundred or so folks who have (and continue to) reach out because of the death of our Black Lab, Maggie. I wish I had time to acknowledge each note, but do not. The purpose of this column is not to garner any sympathy, but to pay tribute to Maggie and the role she played in our lives.


The early days

Since there are always new people reading the blog (and other platforms), I will also mention that it was only six months ago that another one of our dogs died, “He was a Good Dog”

We are now down to two dogs, the 8-year old twins, Big Red and Mackenzie. I first wrote about them on the old blog in a column entitled, Sunday Night, Dog Night.

Back to Maggie:

  • We had Maggie with us for 15 years and 7 months (give or take a few days).
  • Alicia and I have been married for 32 years. (God bless her for putting up with me that long.)
  • Our daughters are 30, 28 & 23

Maggie had been “part of the family” for about half the time we were a family and more than half as far as the girls are concerned.

IMG_1482.jpgA few Observations: Already today, my/our daily routine has changed as Maggie’s age required some extra attention that the twins do not.   It took a few seconds for me to realize I no longer needed to do those things this morning.

Remembering her when she was young: Most of my memories are of her and her preoccupation with pinecones that were plentiful on our property. She would bring them to us and also enjoyed chewing them to pieces in the house. Stepping barefoot on pieces of pinecone are akin to stepping on a Lego piece. Snickers and Maggie were shadows of each other and were a great team for 15 years.

Recent Memories: She was sassy and would “hrumph” at you if she didn’t appreciate your attitude at the moment or was not giving her what she wanted. Lately, when I was working at my desk, she would come in the office and lay down with her back against the base of the chair so that I could not roll back without spinning around and petting her and helping her move. The hardest part for me yesterday was seeing the pain of my wife and daughters as the day played out. Their FB pages are great tributes to Maggie’s legacy.

She was a gentle soul and now, while we have the twins, their personalities are so much different than Maggie and Snickers, they will never take their places and that there will always be something missing in our family.


Earlier this year.  She loved the beach.

Somewhere, pet loss happens everyday and while most people do not blog about it, the sense of loss, “missing” and routine are just as real.

Life goes on but luckily, so do the memories.


About Ray V.

Living between Aiken & Charleston,, South Carolina, USA, I like to share what I am looking at, thinking about or listening to. I refer to this as the view out my window. Thanks for stopping by.
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8 Responses to And Then There Were Two

  1. Claudia says:

    I remember the special times with all of my past dogs. I miss them every day. They are more than dogs; they are friends. And a loss of a friend is a loss of a friend. I always like to believe our dogs are out there, running around like crazy dogs, eating, hunting, sleeping, and playing with all the other dogs. Yours is, too.

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  2. Live & Learn says:

    Sympathies Ray. A hole that will never be fully replaced but memories. They will run. And Run.

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  3. Xena says:

    Our furry faced family members don’t have long life spans. When my Sheba passed on, I said no more dogs because they don’t live long enough and losing them hurts too bad. Then I came to the realization that because their life spans are short, they deserve the best lives with their forever families. I adopted a puppy.

    It is obvious that Maggie had the best life. Thanks so much for sharing her tribute.

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  4. Val Boyko says:

    They hold such a special place in our hearts … forever. May the memories warm you and the family Ray. 💛

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  5. Debra says:

    Pet loss does happen every day, but knowing that doesn’t help too much when it’s your beloved friend. Maggie lived a good long life. And by that wonderful fact, the loss feels all that more profound.


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