Quarter Life What?

Just when I got to a point in my life that I thought there was nothing left to shock me or leave me scratching my head, I wake up this morning and while perusing my morning reading list, I came across an article on LinkedIn entitled, Quarter Life Crisis, You Are Not Alone.

This falls under the “scratching my head” category.  th

The article is a compilation of several viewpoints about the stresses of being in your mid-twenties- early 30’s. Having three daughters that fit loosely in that range, I will choose my comments very, very carefully.

The page starts off with, “According to a LinkedIn research, 75% of 25-33 year olds have experienced a quarter-life crisis, often related to feeling as if they were at a crossroads in their career”

Crossroads of their career?  It seems to this old man, still struggling to get his arms around his white privilege, that this is one of the results of years of no one being cut, giving trophies just for showing up and being told that 2+2=5, if you think it does.

It wasn’t too long ago that members of that age group were working hard to become competent in their trade/profession and often investing long hours to get noticed and grow in their career.

Here is a sub-article, 15 Signs You’re Having a Quarter-Life Crisis.

As I read the ensuing comments, I was pleased to see some mature, common sense as evidenced by this comment by Kim Roach, which sums it up nicely.

Not sure this is an actual crisis. Sounds like it’s just life. I think a mid-life crisis or a quarter-life crisis (or whatever you want to call it) is just an opportunity for growth. Just depends on how you define it. People throughout history have experienced just as much anxiety / challenges. But instead of posting about it on social media, they just got to work on fixing it. Whatever action that may require. About the only time that we won’t be experiencing challenges is when we’re dead, so I say bring it on!

It’s nice to know I’m not the only one scratching my head this morning.

Mea Culpa:  (and sounding like my father thirty years ago)

Sorry kids, we blew it.  We should have done a better job of teaching you that before you can be a gracious winner, it helps to learn how to be a good loser. It also may have helped if you had heard the word “no” more often.  Lastly, even though you wouldn’t appreciate it yet, we should have been more concerned about being your parents and teaching you important things instead of wanting to be your friends. Please forgive us.

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19 Responses to Quarter Life What?

  1. koolaidmoms says:

    I clearly remember struggling around my 25th birthday. I don’t think it was a crisis but more I am not where I thought I would be at this age type of thing. I was supposed to have the perfect job, the perfect marriage, the perfect house with the 2.2 children. I was no where near that and it was a huge deal for awhile. Got over it in a few weeks but it was a struggle to let the picture in my head go.

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  2. Claudia says:

    Looking back, I think I’ve struggled more in my career at 64 than I did any of the other 4’s. Young college graduates haven’t a clue what it’s like to be squeezed out of a job because of your age or capability. I feel bad for their quarter life crisis, but to write a book about it….

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  3. Osyth says:

    I never ever struggled with significant birthdays …. and I don’t think I have had a quarter a mid or any other crisis in my life but my daughters (I have four of them who would also fit loosely into this category) do talk about this thing and I tell them that their friends or whoever is having this crisis need to read their history books and take a look at all those who went before either in war or in peace. Having just finished reading The Boys in The Boat I think that any young person who has the time for a quarter life crisis would do well to dwell on what those young men went through and what was to come in their lives after they took their gold medals home from Berlin in 1936. Sorry. This was bound to provoke a rant …. life is full of ups and downs but the best way to get through is to embrace it, roll with it and count one’s many many blessings 🙂

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  4. Reblogged this on Peter's pondering and commented:
    Crisis?
    What crisis?

    If I owe everyone an apology, then I apologise most sincerely. I’m sure that I was, and am, part of the problem!

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  5. Presumably this man is making a tidy sum by putting ridiculous ideas out there and into too many impressionable heads! Thank you Ray

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  6. Great post Ray. As a Counselor most of my clients are in this age group and I agree, I’m sometimes wondering what they think is a mid-life crisis, I think is just ‘life’ and ‘growth’ They have way too many options!

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  7. Debra says:

    I do clearly think today’s 20-30 year-olds have pressures I didn’t encounter at their age. I had my first child when I was 21 years old and from that point on never had one moment to think about where my life satisfaction came from–I don’t even remember the ’80s! I think Millennials carry a lot of pressure related to employment that didn’t exist when I was their age. Maybe the take-away is that every generation is given particular tasks to hurdle, and although perhaps some are more readily defined by history–as in times of war and conflict–life is just hard. I should have started with that statement! Very interesting topic!

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  8. Roger Reid says:

    Well said, Ray. Interesting how the media makes a typical and/or generic experience a “thing,” and suddenly we have a “crisis,” or a “trend”, or a “cutting edge change,” with lots of folks wanting to identify with it.

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  9. The older I get the less I know….at least that is how it sometimes feels. Or maybe I don’t know less…maybe I am just still trying to figure out the questions. I do know that at 25 I was much to busy with life to be thinking I was having a quarter life crisis.

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  10. I value this insight; however, I’m sure someone said the same things about the first woman or man who coined the phrase “mid-life crisis.” Sometimes it’s not that millennials have never been told no or don’t know how to lose but rather after accomplishing feats that their parents and grandparents only dreamed about they find themselves at a stale mate. With the job market being more competitive than ever, college degrees begin the gatekeepers but college being charged as a luxury and no real mentors wanting to help guide you; it’s no wonder young adults feel as though they are going through a crisis. We get that every generation has had its share of hard times so why is it that issues millennials face often shrugged off?

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